Who is the married man? First of all he is a man. Men are results oriented. Men have a lot of testosterone. They aren't good at deciphering what women want, especially their own wives.The married man used to run his own life. He came and went as he pleased; he watched or played baseball whenever he wanted. He lived his own lifestyle. He could have his woman with him whenever he wanted and she would pay all of her attention to him. Now he is married with a couple of kids, a job he has because it pays the most not because he loves it so much, and a wife who used to cater to him exclusively who now has to divide her time between him, the kids, the house and usually her job.
So this married man goes to work and comes home and goes back to work the next day. At work there is this woman. She is single, attractive, smart, capable, and someone who has time to pay attention to him. It starts as an innocent flirtation. In his mind he is flattered, it is fun, and exciting and just a little bit naughty. What could be more harmless? I'm married.I'm safe. I can just have a little fun with this. So it continues.He thinks he can just experiment a little. Let's see how charming and creative I can be. Let's see if I can get this woman to fall for me.
So he starts flirting just to see what happens. Not a surprise, she responds to the flirting by flirting back.
However, in his mind it is not cheating. He hasn't done anything wrong. In the beginning, he even tells his wife about this woman. He tells her about how smart she is or about some accomplishment, usually what made him notice her in the first place. Wives usually miss the first clues. The thought of the effect of his harmless flirtation on the single woman does not even enter his consciousness. So the harmless flirtation continues. It makes the married man feel good. He is happier at home and everything seems hunky dory. He becomes too far by telling the woman his wife doesn't understand him, she doesn't have time for him, or she just is cruel to him and the other woman will feel sorry and not long after becomes his confidant by starting to believe that he really has no choice in the matter. He needs her because his wife is so … whatever. And he also not forget to tell his woman that he keeps staying with his wife just because of the children. Since then, not only having the family besides, this married man is now also having the other woman in his life. The flirtation now becomes the beginning of the affair!
