One of my friend is saying,"In many minds, I guess I must also look like the other woman. I have been dating a wonderful man for almost two years and am so head over heels in love I could never end this relationship. He is married and has been separated just as I know. I never seen my self as the other woman, but that is what I am I suppose technically as my boyfriend is a married man."
You couldn't ever blame your man for being the other woman. It really depends on yourself. It is your responsibility for all the consequence arise. However, sometimes it happens without intentions. Everything may seem to be fine, in the beginning; you meet a man that makes your heart race just by simply talking to him. You might become friends that inevitably turn into more than just friends without even planning it. And then, once you've fallen for him. If you only need a guy to meet with once in awhile or for sexual comforts, then it might work, but sooner or later, you will pressure this person to leave his wife and kids putting them on the street is a good possibility or you will cry yourself to sleep many nights over kicking your ass that you wasted your life on someone you would never have. This things start to hurt you more than feel good.
I always said to myself not ever be an other woman for somebody's else man. Because, whats love when your guy is "loving" 2 people? How do you feel when he has sex with you and then that other woman? How do you feel when he's holding her at night, and not you? I'm sorry, You can't have happiness being the other woman. You will be in to much pain. And also widely known that being the other woman in a man's life isn't a very respectable thing in society.
How is the way to stop this stupidity?
- Find out why you got involved with this forbidden man.
- Realize that he is not yours, even if your heart says that he is. How can he be the one intended for you when he has already belonged to someone else? If you break it off and he becomes single at some point, then you can truly decide if he is the one for you.
- Tell yourself that you really deserve better. Go over all of the reasons that you are too good to accept the role of the other woman.
- Think about what people would think, like your mother or father. Put yourself in someone else's shoes. Would it be a proud moment for your parents to find out that you are with forbidden man? What do you feel if its happens to you? There really is a reason that you don't go around talking about your wonderful man-because he really isn't "yours" at all.
- Spending your time with your family, friends or works will put your mind on something besides being with him. In fact, getting your mind off of him will be a big step in bringing an end to this affair.
- Finally just go out on dates. There are many available better single men out there that would love to go out with you.
